Wednesday, July 08, 2009

Self confidence

Ok, I am not angry about those people anymore lah. Just not worth a single bit of my cells. I am over it, over them and life moves on.....

Anyway, I had a brief chat with Rick about pretty gals the other day. It started out when I asked him if that gal friend of mine is pretty. For me, I think she is.

His reply was "She is not bad (by the way, Rick's not bad = pretty), but her lack of confidence has compromised her look. She doesn't look "alive" to me. She won't catch my eyes on the street" (0_0)!! I was like, WAHHHHH~~~~~what a detailed and pragmatic answer!

Then he proceeded with comment that a gal doesn't need to be physically pretty to turn heads. As long as she thinks she is pretty and exudes self confidence, she will catch attention.

Makes me wonder.....is this how guys look at gals? Hmmmmm..........

16 comments:

jezalmy said...

hmm, a bit hard to understand the guy view, but at least he got the point there. Then I can see that you must be a very confidence pretty lady because you become his wife..hahaha, isn't a good news for you

Winn said...

i think men in different age group look at girls differently:

10-20 : physical attraction
21-30 : same as above
31-40 : girls with characters ,ie self-confidence
41-50 : same as above
51 and above : back to physical attraction

Doreen said...

jezalmy:
Emmm...not entirely right actually. He was attracted to me physically. We started off as chatting buddies. lol. I didn't have much self confidence back then but built it up as I grow. Hehehe

Winn:
Your analysis very true! But seems like to us gals, no matter what age group we are in, always looking at physical attraction only, or is it just me? lol

emotionalistic said...

I asked my bf and he said, the first impression is still on the look. Unless you know the person, or not you wont be able to tell so much from the first glance. Haha...also, the dressing plays a major role too :). Be it smart or sexy, it will make the person looks confident and attracts attention too.

Petite Lass said...

Your hubby has a point. But his answer has a lot of depth eh. Most guys are attracted by physical appearance though.

Doreen said...

emotionalistic:
I guess most guys still attracted to physical look at first glance. This friend of mine, though pretty, always like to hide behind her beautiful hair, and also frown quite a lot thus the comment from Rick.

Petite Lass:
Yeah, his answer always makes me think. Hurts my brain. Hahahaha.

Shingo T said...

If the guy's a male chauvinist, don't think he will go for a girl who's damn confident of herself.

Personally feel that gals who are confident tend to smile more, and that attracts guys like me. =p

mistipurple said...

most guys will be looking at the physical first. quite natural actually. :P

i look at the gold behind the heart. and i treasure that heart forever. :)

oceanskies79 said...

Interesting sharing by Rick. I don't know the answers to your questions.

keeyit said...

Oo..

Even if you are pretty but you are not confidence means in guys eyes, you are not attractive enough.. hahahahaha...

Doreen said...

Shingo T:
Emmm....don't think chauvinist is anymore popular among gals these days. Yeah, smile is good.

mistipurple:
Whoever close to you will be the lucky ones on earth Misti. Physical appearance fades but the heart lives forever!

oceanskies79:
I guess only guys can answer that question. lol

keeyit:
I think this is for some guys only lah, not all. When I think if a gal is seriously lack of confidence, her gestures would somehow jeopardize her look.

EastCoastLife said...

After being married for so long, I need to look at the physical side first. haha.....

Doreen said...

EastCoastLife:
Huh, really ar? lol

White Lily said...

Tyra Banks once said something about looks and confidence that explains a lot. You walk in a club or a party and there is one girl that gets all the attention and adoring looks, by both males and females. She is not the most physically beautiful, but the most confident of the lot...

I agree confidence and right attitude can be more attractive to a man than plain good looks.

Doreen said...

White Lily:
Totally agree!! It is indeed very true.

(( SKY )) said...

I will remember this question and wait for the right moment to ask, can't wait to find out what he will tell me...hehe